Thursday, June 28, 2012

For a happier life


Yesterday evening we saw “Happiness”, an excellent PBS special.
Dr. Tal Ben Shabar is a Harvard professor teaching class about happiness. His thesis of ingredients for a happy life includes:
Simplification of life. The many choices that we have bring confusion and chaos. He proposes that we ought to simplify our life with simple pleasures; perform less multi-tasking activities; take time out to recover from stress.
Positive acceptance. This is not passivity. Positive acceptance means to make choice based upon available information; learning from mistakes and move on.
Exercise. Referenced many medical studies, Tal Ben Shabar posits that regular physical exercise reduces stress, disease risks, … which will lead to a happier, healthier life.
Happiness can be learned.
Mindful meditation. The simplest daily exercise is the deep breathing method. More advanced mindful meditation will further relaxation, stress-reduction and many other benefits.
Focus on the positives. An attitude of gratitude concentrating upon all the good things in our life is an important element for a happy life.
Tal Ben Shabar has written several best-sellers including “Happier” and “Pursuit of Perfect”.

Thursday, April 19, 2012

Books...

I have been reading quite a bit. I have a Nook and a Kindle Fire
so it's quite handy to take books with us while traveling. The most 
recent books I enjoy are:

1. "Steve Jobs" by Walter Isaacson: A compelling story of a complex 
    human being.

2. "The Swerve: How the World Became Modern" by Stephen Greenblatt:
    An amazing story-telling of Western civilization to the Renaissance
    and Enlightenment.

3. "Knocking on Heaven's Door: How physics and Scientific Thinking illuminate
     the Universe and Modern World" by Lisa Randall. An explanation of
     the complex universe [or multi-verse] we live in from quantum physics
     to the cosmos. Highly recommended.


I really enjoy the free time to re-educate myself with books,
Netflix, magazines, newspapers, online Wikipedia,...

The difference I find that books [those I mentioned before] are much
more complex and are difficult to present in a different media such as
TV. I don't deny the power of visual presentations; we were quite
impressed with Netflix's "Downton Abbey" series and other
science programs from PBS. "Mao's last dancer" movie on Netflix
was also quite a powerful message. But it is not easy to present
ideas from "The Swerve" or Lisa Randall's "Touching Heaven's..."
books in video format.




An agnostic Epicurean

Many believe organized religions have done much more harm throughout history
than good. One just has to be reminded of four centuries of the
Catholic Church's savage Medieval Inquisition and its ill-gotten wealth to this day, the brutal
oppression of women and people of other faith by Islam and the ludicrous
promise - preventing oppressed, poor, less educated/fortunate people to make
change to their present life - of the "next life" by Buddhism. Or their Hindu
misfortune is due to their previous life's bad Karma. In addition, many core
tenets of religious belief systems fail utterly under scientific and
philosophical examinations.

There are many psychological studies showing that reincarnation and stories
of past life are just "false memories". At worst, the invented
reincarnation stories - mostly from poor, less educated communities in India - are scams allowing children of the poorer Hindu caste to gain entrance into the higher
caste. [Note: boys claimed to be the reincarnated [dead] husband of wealthy land-owner's
daughter. In fact, the barbaric practice to burn alive widows came from the
needs to preserve family's wealth.]

A writer in our today's local newspaper explains himself very well below.

"Consider Russell's Teapot, an idea first proposed by Bertrand
Russell, who postulated that if he were to claim that a teapot were orbiting the sun somewhere
between Earth and Mars, the burden of proof of the teapot's existence would be his, not those who doubted his claim. I assume that most people who believe in God would
claim that a teapot orbiting the sun was preposterous, and they wouldn't feel
obligated in any way to prove that it didn't exist.

Personally I think a teapot orbiting the sun is highly unlikely, but
not impossible. It doesn't violate any laws of physics that I am aware of. I also
don't believe in the Tooth Fairy or the Easter Bunny, although I concede that there might be one chance in a quadrillion that they exist."

Sunday, March 25, 2012

Words of [some] wisdom

1. Never say ‘I am aged': There are three ages, chronological, biological, and psychological. The first is calculated based on our date of birth; the second is determined by the health conditions and the third is how old you feel you are. While we don't have control over the first, we can take care of our health with good diet, exercise and a cheerful attitude. A positive attitude and optimistic thinking can reverse the third age.
2. Health is wealth: If you really love your kids and kin, taking care of yourself and your health should be your priority. Thus, you will not be a burden to them. Have an annual health check-up and take the prescribed medicines regularly. Do take health insurance cover.
3. Money is important: Money is essential for meeting the basic necessities of life, keeping good health andearning family respect and security. Don't spend beyond your means even for your children. You have lived for them all through and it is time you enjoyed a harmonious life with your spouse. If your children are grateful and they take care of you, you are blessed.But never take it for granted.
4. Relaxation and recreation: The most relaxing and recreating forces are a healthy attitude, good sleep, music and laughter. Have faith, learn to sleep well, love good music and see the funny side of life.
5. Time is precious: It is almost like holding a horse's reins. When they are in your hands, you can control them. Imagine that every day you are born again. Yesterday is a cancelled cheque. Tomorrow is a promissory note. Today is ready cash — use it profitably. Live this moment.
6. Change is the only permanent thing: We should accept change — it is inevitable. The only way to make sense out of change is to join the dance. Change has brought about many pleasant things. We should be happy that our children are blessed.
7. Enlightened selfishness: All of us are basically selfish. Whatever we do, we expect something in return. We should definitely be grateful to those who stood by us. But our focus should be on the internal satisfaction and happiness we derive by doing good to others, without expecting anything in return.
8. Forget and forgive: Don't be bothered too much about others' mistakes. We are not spiritual enough to show our other cheek when we are slapped in one. But for the sake of our own health and happiness, let us forgive and forget them. Otherwise, we will be only increasing our BP.
9. Everything has a reason. A purpose: Take life as it comes. Accept yourself as you are and also accept others for what they are. Everybody is unique and right in his own way. \
10. Overcome the fear of death: We all know that one day we have to leave this world. Still we are afraid of death. We think that our spouse and children will be unable to withstand our loss. But the truth is no one is going to die for you; they may be depressed for some time. Time heals everything and they will carry on.

Regardless How Far The Journey Is OR How Capable We Are, We Do Our Best To Reach Our Goal. This Is Perseverance At Its Best ...—Anonymous

Thursday, February 02, 2012

Re: Syria and the Middle East

Syria: It is quite complicated. Look at Egypt now.
The Islamists and radicals are taking over the country.
It is reported that many intellectuals - many of whom
were in the Arab Spring front line hoping for democracy -
are very discouraged and wanting to emigrate to
the US and other countries. Unfortunately, the news from
Syria is not all good. The Arab unrest there may unleash
a theocratic tyranny/dictatorship worse than Bashar al-Assad.

US/France/GB is turning their back on someone whom
they've been courting for years. At the same time, Russia
is drawing a line in the sand against the West by continuing
supporting al-Assad. Iran is arming to the teeth including
possible nuclear weapon development,
playing chicken with our Navy and threatens the
Strait of Hormuz.

It'll be a rough ride for all of us...

Wednesday, February 01, 2012

On reading Epicurus

"Don’t fear god,

Don’t worry about death;

What is good is easy to get, and

What is terrible is easy to endure."

Philodemus, Greek Epicurean philosopher

Epicureanism

Epicurus (341 BCE - 270 BCE) was an ancient Greek philosopher, raised on Samos then returned to Athens in 307 BCE to practice philosophy and developed a school of philosophy called Epicureanism. He lived very simply and frugally. In many letters throughout his life, he himself said that he was quite content with just water and simple bread and lots of friends and expressed his gratitude to his parents, kindness to his brothers, and gentle kindness to all around him.

He wrote that there is nothing fearful in the absence of life. So death, the most frightening of bad things, is nothing to us; since when we exist, death is not yet present, and when death is present, then we do not exist. Therefore, it is relevant neither to the living nor to the dead, since it does not affect the former, and the latter do not exist. Epicurus wrote that "... a wise man neither rejects life nor fears death. For living does not offend him, nor does he believe not living to be something bad. And just as he does not unconditionally choose the largest amount of food but the most pleasant food, so he savors not the longest time but the most pleasant."

Epicurus, by his personal example and by his teaching and a lifetime of serenity and wisdom, revealed the path to redemption from unhappiness. He was revered by his followers as a divine sage who had answers to all the important questions of life. What attracted converts was the prospect of personal happiness, for which Epicurus offered clear philosophical advice. The fundamental obstacle to happiness, says Epicurus, is anxiety. No matter how rich or famous you are, you won’t be happy if you’re anxious to be richer or more famous. No matter how good your health is, you won’t be happy if you’re anxious about getting sick. You can’t be happy in this life if you’re worried about the next life. You can’t be happy as a human being if you’re worried about being punished or victimized by powerful divine beings. But you can be happy if you believe in the four basic truths of Epicureanism: there are no divine beings which threaten us; there is no next life; what we actually need is easy to get; what makes us suffer is easy to put up with.

Illness and pain are disagreeable, but nature has so constituted us that we need not suffer very much from them. Sickness is either brief or chronic, and either mild or intense, but discomfort that is both chronic and intense is very unusual; so there is no need to be concerned about the prospect of suffering. Know the limits of what you need, recognize the limits of what your body is likely to suffer, and enjoy the confidence that your life will be overwhelmingly pleasant, unless you poison it with anxiety. “Don’t worry about death.” While you are alive, you don’t have to deal with being dead, but when you are dead you don’t have to deal with it either, because you aren’t there to deal with it. “Death is nothing to us,” as Epicurus puts it, for “when we exist, death is not yet present, and when death is present, then we do not exist.”

Worrying about death casts a general pall over the experience of living, either because people expect to exist after their deaths and are humbled and terrified into ingratiating themselves with the gods, who might well punish them for their misdeeds, or else because they are saddened and terrified by the prospect of not existing after their deaths. But there are no gods which threaten us, and, even if there were, we would not be there to be punished. Our souls are flimsy things which are dissipated when we die, and even if the stuff of which they were made were to survive intact, that would be nothing to us, because what matters to us is the continuity of our experience, which is severed by the parting of body and soul. It is not sensible to be afraid of ceasing to exist, since you already know what it is like not to exist; consider any time before your birth—was it disagreeable not to exist? And if there is nothing bad about not existing, then there is nothing bad for your friend when he ceases to exist, nor is there anything bad for you about being fated to cease to exist. It is a confusion to be worried by your mortality, and it is an ingratitude to resent the limitations of life, like some greedy dinner guest who expects an indefinite number of courses and refuses to leave the table.

“What’s good is easy to get.” We need food, water, shelter from the elements, and safety from hostile animals and people. All these things lie ready to hand and can be acquired with little effort or money. We don’t need extravagant foods, palaces, or bodyguards, which are expensive and difficult to acquire and keep. People who want more than they need are making a fundamental mistake, a mistake that reduces their chances of being satisfied and causes needless anxiety.

The discipline of Epicurean philosophy enables its followers to recognize how little they actually need, to enjoy possessing it, and to enjoy the confidence that they will continue to possess it. On the other hand, there is no reason not to enjoy occasional luxuries, if they happen to be easily available. There is nothing wrong with luxury in itself, but any dependence on luxuries is harmful to our happiness, as is every desire for unnecessary things.

To say that life is free is not to say that we don’t need to observe any moral constraints. It is a very bad plan to cheat on your friends or assault people in the street or do anything else that would cause you to worry about their reactions. Why is this a bad plan? Not because god has decreed that such things are ‘immoral’, but because it is stupid to do anything that would cause you to worry about anything.

One of the remarkable features of Epicurus’ philosophy is that it can be understood at several levels of subtlety. You don’t need to be a philosophical genius to grasp the main points, which is why Epicurus coined slogans and maxims for ordinary people to memorize, to help them relieve their anxiety whenever it might arise.

Edited excerpts from "The Epicurus Reader" by D.S. Hutchinson